That's understandable. My argument is that this is not just an anti-Ukrainian thing but also an anti-Russian thing. The war is stupid and pointless and not even in the best interest of Russians. I also can't garner much sympathy for my friend's husband-though I am angry about the propaganda that led to his decision. But my friend is grieving with a husband dead and she had been married for just 3 years or so and they have a young daughter now growing up without a father because of this decision. I do have sympathy for her. There are going to be many more like her and history, rightfully, won't be kind to their husbands.