My last Russian girlfriend, before I married my Armenian wife, went back to Russia from visiting me in Georgia, got involved in a car accident, was rescued by some guy who visited her in hospital, fell in love, dumped me, married him, had a beautiful daughter then the husband volunteered for Ukraine and lasted less than a month. Now she is a widow. Does she blame Putin or anything? Nope. She says wars are part of life of a country and her husband was a hero. She is a psychologist and created a support group for those whose husband's and sons are going to the war. And months after he died she has rebranded herself as a widow of a hero and thus expert in counseling everyone involved. And finished renovations on the apartment she bought with the moeny from his death. As much as I care for, I find her attitude perplexing and nauseating. Some of it can be a coping mechanism but it rubs me the wrong way to turn your spouse's death into a marketing exercise. But it might give you some idea that your assumptions may not play out on the scale you think.